A long time ago (in the time of before the before), I read a book by Stephen Covey ~ I loved it, but I lost track of where it went in the passing eons.
As I unpack the intervening 30 years of detritus, (there are a LOT of boxes!) I have rediscovered some of the things that I actually took the time to write down. Stuck in a very (very!) old journal, I found my version of “The 7 Habits” ~ and while it is going around the internet in various forms right now, I decided to put it here because it meant a lot to me the first time I read it, it got me through, and past a life time of abuse (by others, and then myself) ~ so now I post it as a ‘re-share” type thing, because it still makes sense to me…
Coveys’ Seven Cardinal Rules of Life
(yes, with my own additions in parenthesis so it made sense to ME)
1. Make peace with your past so it does not spoil your present. Your past does not define your future – your (current) actions and beliefs do.
2. What others think of you is none of your business. (What matters) is how much you value yourself and how important you think you are. (don’t take away your own power)
3. Time heals almost everything ~ give time, time. (The) pain will lessen. (The) scars (pain leaves) make us who we are, they explain our life and (what) who we are; they challenge us and force us to be(come) strong.
4. No one (or anything) is the reason for your happiness, except you, yourself. Waste no time and effort searching for peace and contentment and joy in the world outside (of yourself).
5. Don’t compare your life with (an)others, you have no idea what their journey is about. If we all threw our problems in a pile and saw everyone else’, we would grab ours back as fast as we could.
6. Stop thinking too much ~ it (really) is all right to not know all the answers. Sometimes there is no answer, (there is) not going to be any answer, (and there) never has been (or will be) an answer. So…That’s the answer! Just accept it, and move on.
7. Smile ~ you don’t own all the problems in the world. A smile can brighten the darkest day and make life more beautiful. It is a potential curve, (upward) to turn a life around (up) and set everything straight.(right.)
So, there you have it.
Rules to live by.
Now ~ I am the first person in line to say “yeah, whatever” to things like this ~ every once in awhile there is no doubt, and you read something that makes sense.
I guess that after 50 years of hard learning, I have decided that sometimes ~ SOMETIMES…
The old writer dudes really DO know what they are talking about.
Until tomorrow ~ go out and be excellent to one another!